jQuery...mmm.... well, that works, but I cringed a bit reading that: it's inefficient to do it that way... it's a bit like an ostrich poking his head into the sand to "escape" danger.
I was thinking something like this for your menu Chunk:
<li>Parent 1
[[getResources? &parents=`1` ... ]]
</li>
<li>Parent 2
[[getResources? &parents=`2` ... ]]
</li>
<li>Parent 3
[[getResources? &parents=`3` ... &limit=`10`]]
</li>
Your parent resources probably don't change all that often, so it'd be fine to hard-code them, and then you could tweak the limit parameter for each as needed. Note that this example could be cached, and that would be nice for speed. It's pretty much the same scenario for Wayfinder.