pages not showing in menus

I have created 5 pages and non of them will show up in either a wayfarer menu or just links.
They are published
They are in a chunk like so:
<ul>
<li class="first"><a href="#">Home</a></li>
<li><a href="[~2~]">Products</a></li>
<li><a href="[~3~]">About</a></li>
<li><a href="[~5~]">Where</a></li>
<li><a href="[~4~]">Contact</a></li>
</ul>
I get 404 page not found for all of them apart from the first home page

is this a config issue?

I have friendly urls yes, no prefix, suffix .html, use friendly aliases, use friendly alias path. Using the above or
<ul>
<li class="first"><a href="#">Home</a></li>
<li><a href="[http://www. etc etc]">Products</a></li>

</ul>

gives the same result as does using the wayfarer menu

Any suggestions? Its the small frustrating things that you do when first learning that are so annoying!

Thanks

Does it work if you turn friendly URLs off?

Did you rename the ht.access file in the root and in the manager directory to .htaccess?

Does your server environment even support .htaccess and URL rewriting?